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This is a wake-up call for Trans activists, and it’s coming from inside the house. Today, many gay men and lesbians find themselves in an uncomfortable position, watching visible friction between segments of the gay community and segments of the Trans activist movement intensify. The tension isn’t born of hatred but of fear that aggressive tactics are undermining decades of … [Read more...] about Rockford Files: Family Feud – LGB vs T

** WARNING: TRUTH BOMB DROPPING IN 30 SECONDS ** In today’s dating culture, everyone claims to be searching for “the one.” It appears in bios, comes up on first dates, and repeats more than ‘Yass, Queen!' on RPDR. The idea behind the phrase is romantic, and with the right music and lighting, it may even sound sincere, but it masks a contradiction. While many want to find … [Read more...] about The Rockford Files: The One – To Be, Or Not To Be

(Pass it on) There comes a time in a gay man’s life when survival is no longer the only goal. When there are more years behind than ahead, the protests, the loudness, the proving, the need to be noticed—all of that softens. In that quieter stage, what arises, if you live long enough, is perspective. From this perspective emerges an irrefutable truth: we are here because … [Read more...] about Psst…Kindness is a Superpower

I said it. Someone had to. Women can not be Drag Queens and have no place performing or competing as such. Wait! Ladies, before you get your tuck-less panties in a bunch, understand that I am not a grumpy homo with an ax to grind. Hear me out; my grievance has roots.  The first bee flew into my bonnet when Victoria Stone was allowed to compete in the third season of … [Read more...] about Just Say No – Women Cannot Be Drag Queens

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but it’s probably you: a man can use correct grammar and still be hot enough to blow your back out. It's time to bust the myth of the grammar nerd. You know the stereotype: pale, hunched over, wearing Crocs with socks, correcting people's tweets and whispering "could have, not could of" at parties they weren't invited to. It's my Daddy … [Read more...] about The Rockford Files: Grammar Yahtzee – Why Syntax Is Sexy

A High School is directly across the street from my apartment in Hell's Kitchen. It's allegedly a magnet school for students gifted in the performing arts, although I've yet to see any proof of that. And, judging by their after-school demeanor, I doubt I ever will. What I see, however, is not entirely unlike my High School experience at their age. For most, it's the giddy … [Read more...] about The Rockford Files: Waiting for Life to Begin

Its' Mardi Gras time, motherf*ckers! The season is upon us, and now that the Super Bowl is out of the way, New Orleans can get down to business. If you've ever visited the Crescent City during Carnival season, you know that is something that natives take very seriously. How seriously? If forced to choose between paying rent on time and affording the perfect Mardi Gras … [Read more...] about The Rockford Files: Jock-A-Mo-Fee-Na-Ne Why Mardi Gras Is More Important Than The Rent

Two priests and a rabbi are standing around comparing methods used in dividing their congregations’ weekly offerings.  The first priest states: " I draw a circle on the ground, and  I stand in the middle. I  toss the week's offerings into the air, and whatever falls outside the circle is for the heavenly father; whatever falls inside the circle is for … [Read more...] about The Rockford Files: Two Priests and a Rabbi… Faith, The Final Frontier

For some, it was a House In Vermont, perhaps a House In Vegas. Some Caught the Monkey. Others had the Booty Flu, Butt Pox, or African hickey. For the optimists -- He Intends Victory. In the wake of the AIDS epidemic, there were any number of colorful ways to discreetly reveal who among us was HIV+. Maybe it's a sign of the times, or I'm jaded, or perhaps it's because my … [Read more...] about The Rockford Files – Choose HIV before it Chooses you