The Rockford Files

Picture it: 7:30 on a Saturday morning. I’ve been up all night trolling Grindr and Scruff and Jack’d without much luck. And I’m doing what most guys who’ve been up all night partying, but not having sex, are doing: watching porn, a little arts & crafts, and cleaning our apartments. This is not an unfamiliar scenario to me, and on this Saturday morning I was prepared to … [Read more...] about Father Figure

It’s estimated that 1 in 6 men have experienced sexual abuse at some point in their lives, and often are unable to talk about it. I believe that we have to talk about it. Despite what society has groomed us to believe, boys are not immune to sexual abuse just because we’re boys. I should know. The first time it happened is one of my clearest memories from childhood. I was … [Read more...] about #Me(n) Too

(Before you invest three minutes of your life reading this article, you should know that it has nothing to do with Elton John, his movie biopic or his music. This article is about appreciating America’s space program. What?? Yep. Read on.) I should start with a public apology to anyone who was a member of a high school computer or science club between the years of 1984 and … [Read more...] about Thank you, Rocketman!

Last weekend, Comic-Con descended upon Gotham City. The visitors and residents of midtown Manhattan never felt safer as there seemed to be a superhero on every corner. Comic-Con is an event that I think everyone should experience at least once in their lifetime.  It’s one weekend of the year where comic book fans of all ages can geek out and let their freak flag … [Read more...] about Holding Out for a Hero

Why Pose is the most important series on television. If you haven’t heard of the latest creation to receive the Midas touch of Ryan Murphy, Pose is an American dramatic television series on the FX network set within the New York ball culture of the 1980’s. The series’ characters are predominantly made up of black and Latino LGBTQ gender non-conforming individuals who’ve been … [Read more...] about The Category Is… Realness

For a very long time, I hated that phrase. And growing up, I heard it a lot. My father was an alpha male, ex-marine.  In my house, there was no bullshit. There were rules to be followed, chores to be done, commands to be obeyed and manners to uphold. He had a confident, no-nonsense, presence wrapped in a thick, muscular frame that seemed to mirror the hyper-masculine … [Read more...] about “Be A Man”

Back Burners – those ‘maybe one day’ relationship candidates. Those  guys we keep on standby in case our current relationship hits the skids, or for when we’re feeling lonely or need help getting through a sexual dry spell. They are the guys we know that due to other obligations or priorities, current partner or basic incompatibilities, a real relationship with them just … [Read more...] about The Back Burner Boyfriend

America’s Next Fag Superstar spills the tea on Boston’s Straight Pride. Have you heard the one about some elements in Boston throwing their own parade celebrating Straight Pride? Unfortunately, it’s no joke.  And instead of a punchline, the LGBTQ community gets a punch in the gut. In an act of outlandish absurdity the Boston “straight rights” advocacy group Super … [Read more...] about Funny, Not Funny

I have a dog. Her name is Brenda.  Actually, her full name is ‘Brenda, from Accounting’.  Why? Because dog owners feel obliged to engage in some sort of small talk while our hounds are sniffing each other’s buttholes.  The standard, “I really don’t give a fuck” question most often asked is, “So, what’s her name?” I thought a fun response would be, “This is … [Read more...] about Is Fuchsia the new color of hate?